The rabbit and “fear caller” has been twitching his bunny nose in my direction. Rabbit has been asking me to take note of my fears and to move through them. Last night, I had a “light bulb” moment. My relationship with fear has been one of immense struggle! It has been a tug of war in which I am running from one end of the rope to the other. No one makes progress and no one wins...well, no one that is accept fear.

I also tried(as the sea turtle would) to flow through fear. That also seemed confusing and truly getting me nowhere. How do you flow through fear?! It is a blockage, right? So what alternative do you have to get through or past your fears?

I agree with the old adage, “Feel the fear and do it anyway”. The things we feel fearful about are clues about lessons we need to learn and problems we must face. We must face fear. We can choose to run away from or ignore fear, but that only increases our stress and anxiety. Running from our fear offers no real solutions and only offers more problems.  I have always approached fear(as stated earlier) from a fighting standpoint. I am a fighter by nature, however, that has only left me floundering for higher ground without much progress on the conquest of my fears.

Last night it finally hit me, trust was the real issue and the root cause of all my fears. I not only need to trust the divine, but to trust in myself and others. A myriad of trust issues is the key to unlocking and moving through fear. I cannot teach you to trust, because that requires faith. Faith is something we all must develop on our own and at our own speed.

My final words of advice are to stop struggling against fear and surrender to it. Live in the present moment and as the hummingbird would say, “Stop to enjoy the sweet nectar of life”.

About this article: I am a spirit animal medium. I don’t really have a title, but I do know that I can find a owl in the dark from a distance away and I get spirit animals in my third eye as messages for myself and others. These entries will be written like anonymous journal entries that I have with clients expressing main takeaways from our session.

A “paradigm shift” is defined as “an important change that happens when the usual way of thinking about or doing something is replaced by a new and different way.”


It started as it always does, a late night wake up. I grab my phone and open the notebook app. Sometimes I peer at the clock for numbers and other times I get right to work. It also happens, occasionally, that I dream for my clients as well. Although, I have felt a shift in this pattern. Recently, I have been fully awake to gather information from spirit. I start to gather information and write it down for our session. I hear, “Back up”! The words were stated in a threatening manner that included posturing and a dark toxic energy surrounding it. I associated it with the client’s spouse. I felt an overwhelming amount of fear. I was so scared and after receiving all the information it took quite awhile for me to fall back into slumber.

There was more, I saw my family in my third eye and it felt like a mirror...like my client and I mirrored one another. I have experience being a paradigm shift in my family, but I did not make that connection until the day of the session. I wrote these feelings down and continued.

I got a view of a poisonous snake in my mind’s eye. I had the urge to look up, “poisonous snake spirit animal”, which I did. The message speaks of toxic energy. The poisonous snake is a galvanizing guide that provokes you into action through pain and suffering. The poisonous snake acts as a catalyst for change. It helps you find the power to transmute suffering into a blessing.

Feelings and a bit of “knowing” came through. I felt a loss of personal power, a feeling of being trapped, and loads of fear. I had a “knowing” that this was a commanding or authoritative figure being highlighted. I kept feeling the spouse’s energy. I also felt a blow to the right side of my face. My left brain started to get in the way and I felt myself wondering if my client’s spouse was abusive. I felt or heard, “don’t assume”. This was a great lesson for me this week. Do not assume.

More information came in. “Karmic energies”, which felt oddly out of place at the time, but made complete sense during our session. Also, “It’s time” and a “need for releasing pent up energies”. The word “paradigm shift” came in during our session. I was also told to guide my client to a previous article that I had written, “Breakdown to Breakthrough ”. Feeling satisfied that a good picture had been painted, I slowly drifted off to sleep.

The day of the session, I walked over to my office and started my meditation session for centering. My client walks in and we begin. I connected and strong emotions were washing over me. Dark and very heavy emotions came forward from my client. Nervously, I started to go over the information I received from spirit the night before. My client confirms with my “mother-in-law”. That is when it all clicked, my client has three boys and I have three boys. We are both paradigm shifts in our families. I asked about the piece of information that I got about being “struck upside the face”. My client said her mother-in-law had a bad fall a few years ago in which she hit her head.

My client is being spurred to take action and to help cleanse her family line. Her final message, “Take courage, dear heart”. To do what is necessary sometimes requires us to cast our fears aside and summon the great courage that resides within. By the way, we never lose our power we simply lose sight of it sometimes, but it is always there waiting for us to claim it as ours.

Breaking down to have a breakthrough. This concept seemed truly abstract at the time when my metaphysical friend and I started to talk about it. My opinion now? I truly believe that breaking down and getting to the heart of the matter could be the very thing that can jump start your life for the better. For example, say you have a problem with anxiety. Ask yourself questions. Why  are you anxious? When do I feel anxious? Strip away the layers until you get to the root cause of the problem. By getting to the actual root of the problem, you have an opportunity to fix it.

Having a breakdown is typically viewed through a negative lens, but what if you choose a different perspective and use a positive “rose-colored” lens on your breakdown. Having a breakdown gives you a chance to have a fresh start. The breakdown process feels uncomfortable and painful, but remember this process is preparing you for a breakthrough and growth. What most people who are in the throes of suffering do not realize is what awaits them on the other side. It is the promise of hope, recovery, and(once the breakdown is processed) a renewal of the spirit. What awaits you is a new beginning stripped down to the building block essentials. This gives you a chance to rebuild your life on your terms and to shape the life you have imagined for yourself. It is never too late to build again.

A breakdown could mean many things, but let's give an example of a “breakdown event” in your life. A “breakdown event” is any event that feels devastating to you. DIVORCE. That word strikes sorrow and fear into the hearts of many. However, If you are miserable together than a divorce is a chance for release and freedom. It is a chance to start over again and make better relationship decisions. The divorce is a chance to step forward and have a breakthrough regarding what you want and need from a partner. It gives you both a chance to reflect upon the breakdown of your marriage. It involves the reflection of the good, the bad, and the challenges leading up to your divorce. This process is a chance for a renewal of the spirit...a fresh start.

What is the point of explaining all of this? Going through turmoil does not destroy you. It is a destructive process that forces you to strip away emotions and even people you no longer need in your life. Darkness, sadness, and distress give you time for reflection and a chance to rebuild your life for the better. It is a chance to start with fresh eyes, a clear mind, and a humble heart. Do not let anyone tell you that you are tainted because of your troubles! From now on, I am calling my troubles growth experiences! So, the next time you are in a dark place shine some positivity on your situation and grab a pair of rose colored glasses. You will be grateful you did.